The Journey of Motherhood: Growth, Surrender, and the Gift of Perspective

Becoming a mother in 2011 changed me in ways I didn’t realize I needed. Motherhood has challenged my desire for control and has given me a deeper awareness of areas in my life that I need to grow.

Being a mother is a role filled with humility and service. It carries great responsibility, yet it is also one of immense joy. This journey has been one of surrender, learning to let go and rely more on God for wisdom and strength.

Motherhood has also taught me to see everyone as someone’s child, uniquely created with purpose and worth. From eagerly anticipating the arrival of each of my children, to watching them reach milestones, and eventually launching them into the next phase of their lives, each season has been an opportunity to release control and expectations. In doing so, I’ve learned to see the plan God has for them, and for me.

Some days, I am deeply grateful for the gift of mothering, while other days, I feel overwhelmed by the expectations I place on myself because of the title of “Mom.” The anxious thoughts and overwhelming pressure I often feel to juggle it all can steal the joy and peace that should come from embracing the beauty and blessings of this journey.

When I try to orchestrate and plan everything, getting caught up in the productivity and pride of accomplishments, I miss the little moments. Checking off boxes sometimes feels gratifying, but what has been most meaningful are the quiet moments of connection, when I truly see my children for who they are, rather than what they’ve done.

When things don’t go as planned, I find myself doubting my worth and mistakenly tying it to the outcome. But I’ve learned that my value is not determined by perfection or accomplishment, it’s rooted in love, grace, and growth.

Motherhood has been a journey of growth, not only for my children but for me as well. It’s challenged me to choose joy in difficult moments, to choose peace over being right, to embrace humility when I’ve made mistakes, and to love and accept when things don’t go according to plan. It has also provided countless opportunities to practice courage, patience, empathy, and the recognition that every person is worthy of love.

As I reflect on this journey of motherhood, I am reminded that it’s not about perfection, but about the love, growth, and grace we experience along the way. Each day brings new challenges and blessings, and I’m learning to embrace both with a heart full of gratitude and surrender.

To all the mothers reading this, know that you are seen, you are valued, and you are deeply loved. Motherhood is a beautiful and sometimes messy journey, but it’s also one of the greatest gifts. Today, take a moment to appreciate yourself and all that you do: your love, your sacrifices, and your unwavering dedication to your children. You are appreciated more than words can express.

Happy Mother’s Day!

-Carissa